Boundary Buddies

The Brick

The brick has no trust. It was hurt before by someone it trusted dearly.

The brick is always anxious, afraid, and angry.

It holds a lot of doubts about others

It also has a difficult time even sharing honestly about its favorite music genre.

It feels like its weakness is taken advantage of and feels the need to defend itself.

It allows no love to enter, and has no gates for its emotions to be shown.

Inside the brick is a very lonely dude.

It needs to meet someone who has the patience to admire his beautiful bricks, until the brick is comfortable enough to put a gate on it.

Don’t force the brick to open up, it will only be hurt and cracked.

Jell-O

The Jello loves to go along with others.

Yet, the Jello does not know what it really feels.

The Jello is very transparent, like an open book, but find it hard to keep a secret.

The Jello also feels responsible for other people’s feelings, it is always identifying itself with others, hence takes it anything people push toward the Jello.

It is sensitive to criticism, it jiggles every time it hears criticism.

This is because Jello wants to make everyone happy but doesn’t know how to be happy itself.

Jell-O’s confidence was not fostered at a young age, people only liked it when it was added with water, or other fruits, its brother JellO-Shot is also struggling the same boundary issue.

Potato Chip

It breaks, shatters, and gives up easily.

It does not want to deal with conflict so it agrees to things that it does not want to agree with.

It is very hurt. Its default state is just hurt.

The fragile mind tend to depend on what others think of potato chip.

Therefore, when others do not say anything well of it, it shatters.

It represses itself too much, dehydrated and brittle.

Tends to compromise its own wants so that others can have the taste and crunchy sound of potato chip.

It misses the days when it was a round plump beautiful potato, but has lots its roots long time ago.

Condom

The condom is very selective of who it hangs out with.

Yet, it is also too dependent on a select few.

It believes that others will make it whole.

It only believes one type of story in life, whether it is black or white,

It tends to block out the rest and focus on only one person.

It resents the one person it opened to because that one person did not fulfill who it is.

Sponge

The Sponge always feels empty, with its little bitty holes in it.

It has a rough side, but it is overpowered by its soft side.

It always feels like it is missing something.

It never feels safe near the cold, smelling, kitchen sink.

The dish detergent seems to know its purpose in life, but sponge is always lost.

Sponge is always looking outside of its sink, to see what other things in life can fulfill it.

It is exhausted of cleaning up other people’s problems.

Sponge’s self-image is blurred between dirty oils and soap scum.

Sponge is becoming bitter by the day

And find it difficult to say No, when people want it to clean things outside of the sink.

Toilet Paper

It is always involved with people who hurt toilet paper.

It tries to take care of others more than taking care of self.

It feels ashamed often, and neglects any positive remark

Somewhere in its life, someone told toilet paper it was not enough.

Sometimes, people told toilet paper it was inadequately thin,

May times toilet paper was forced to care for its caregiver’s needs, so it has a tough time with boundaries.

Plasma Membrane

It knows how to balance what is appropriate in each setting, whether it be family, friends, or work. It is protective over its needs, and is very clear, receptive, and flexible with its boundaries. Just like the actual Plasma Membrane

-protects intra/extra cellular environments

-regulates what enters and exits the cells for the health of the cell.

Plasma Membrane is an ideal type of boundary, yet we all struggle to accept the real me time to time. I hope everyone can meet compassionate people who can sit down and hear your story, make you feel safe, and validate your existence!

If you ever meet one of my Boundary Buddies! Please don't ever take it personally, no one is perfect and sometimes what other people need is not some amazing celebrity to relate to, but someone that would sit down and listen to them, as if they were the only person in the world they would write a biography about. Of course, we pay counselors to do that for us, but just imagine, 

What if you could be that friend today? 

a friend that listens to others as if you want to write a biography about them. 

Amazing!